How best and worst things can be

Hello everyone,

 I read a story about an old man, donkey and well. I feel like it was an interesting story. The story begin when the donkey falls into a well. The old man, as an owner of the well think that he should cover the well. He found out there was a donkey inside. He talked to himself, nothing he can do beside covering the well. He ignored the donkey and start covering the well. The donkey shouted and begged for help. The old man keep put in the sands. The donkey falls once in a while but he keep shouting and get up. Then the donkey reliase, if it keeps getting up, it can safe its life. It get up continously and finally it safe.

For the past few weeks, I always wondering what will be my future.Who is destiny to be my husband? How my life with him? Will he be my husband? Why so many things happened for the couple of months ago? Why I feel safe and comfortable with this person? What does this sign means? These questions keep bothering me.

What is the relationship between the questions and the donkey? I’m wondering too much about my future till I forgot about my present. I should treasure today as I don’t know is there tomorrow for me. Why should I worry about how best and worst things can be? Allah had planned everything for me. He is the greatest and smartest planner of all. Yes, this is my life and I have choice to choose which way to go.

Let me put it this way. Donkey is life. Sands are challenges. Challenges will always come into your life regardless who you are. Do you realize that you grow, learn, and the most important thing is being you through all the challenges that you faced? Challenges had molded and shaped you into who are you now. As I’m bothering too much about my future, I stayed inside the well without doing anything. Worrying about who is meant for me is kinda headache though. I should put my trust on Him, keep moving on and get up regardless whatever happened to me. When the time has come, I can escape from the well and meet the perfect guy.

p/s: the perfect man doesn’t mean the perfect for me =D

False Alarms

Dear all,

It’s been quite sometimes I didn’t update myself. So here I am for the quick update. Recently Kuantan, Kemaman, and Dungun were affected by flood. In fact, even Johor and Melaka were affected too. Alhamdullilah everything is getting better day by day. It was a great experience I would say. Going out finding foods, clean water and taking shower with only 3 pails of water. Can you imagine? Fuuuhh~~ I just realize perfume is a thoughtful invention. Hahahaha.

Beside flood things, my life was just the same. I received a news that my boss gonna resign soon. It was a great lost honestly. When I’m emotionally attached with someone, it is kinda hard to lose them. Well, I know we have whatsapp, Line, Viber, FB etc, but it’s not the same as face to face interaction. I feel sad because he is my first manager and he’s the one who mould me for the past 10 months. He guided me the way of doing things one by one without letting me feel stupid. Aishhh~~ I just realize that people keep coming and go from my life. I don’t know whether it was a sign but I feel sad about it.

In February, someone will leave me too. That person keep saying, “whatever Ira, while I’m here”. T.T and I keep scolding him when he said so. I hope our friendship will last till the end even though I just get to know him for 10 months.  Knowing him taught me to be a bit easy going. Do not put too much pressure on the things that are not necessary or yet to happen. The thing is that, I always look silly, blur and clumsy in front of him. Ok fine! Ottoke~~ it’s me anyway. Hehehe. I’m admiring the way he handle his life. With all those things happened in his life before really teach me a lot on the values of being independent, strong, friendship and never show to people how bad your day is.

So, that’s all for today.   

p/s: Evacuating my heart as I keep receiving false alarms. =P

Its About Time

Dear all,

Recently I have been flooded with great news which I supposed to be happy with it. Well, I am happy. One by one of my friends are either getting married or engaged. At first I feel happy as they were happy. I bring present and attended their ceremony. Then I start to get news that, either they were pregnant or about to give birth. Honestly, I'm so happy for them.

However, I have something in my heart. I felt like I'm loosing my friends. The biggest news that affecting me was a story of my best friend's engagement early this month. Of course I am happy for him. Alhamdullilah, he got his answer and he will have peaceful life. I told myself, its not gonna be the same as before. Well, he used to be my personal consultant. 

Honestly, I start to feel sad as one by one of my friends are moving to the next stage of their life. First, Hariz, then Syafiq and latest Iz. I do imagine that we will grow up and moving on to the next stage of our life but I never expect that I'll feel this way. Its kinda mixed up feeling were you feel happy and sad at the same time. I'm anticipating more news from my friends. I just can't imagine how will it be when I received an invitation from Sopha, Ada, Nisyak, Ecah, Syirah, Fatin, Kak Zira, Aqwa, Pejal, Capiq, Syed, Kak Fain, Bell, Zati, Silah, and last but not list Halim. They are my strength. I used to turn to them when I feel in need. I just had a feeling that everything will not be the same. 

Life must go on. Insya Allah, Ya Allah, please protect them as they were so important in my life. Bring happiness, peace and give them strength and calmness so they can undergo their life with your bless. Protect them from danger, sadness and bad people. Guide them and show them the right path as you know everything either its about to happened, will happen or happened. Thank you Allah for bring me these great people in my life. 

p/s: Time goes, Friends Stay

Saying Hello and Wishing Goodbye

Dear all,

So, here I am, in Bintulu for the second time. I still remember how hard I felt to left Bintulu that day. Well I just realized, its not the place I missed but the people, environment and warmest welcome I get. On top of that, I have been treated the way I never been treated before. I felt so happy and touched. Despite what happened in Mainland, I felt being here is the best gateway for me to calm down, find myself, to reflects why it happened and finding answers.

Well, here I am, with the answers. I was struggling to get through it. Even though I may look ok but it doesn't show the inside me. Today, I found my answers, hold to it and never turn back. I know how it happened, why it happened and I realize, it can't getting better with only one side. So I decided to walk away and keep going on without turning  back anymore. I know, it will  be a hard journey for me but I believe, it happened for reasons. For whatever reasons there are, I am entering a new chapter of my life. I will have new characters and scenes. Of course the characters from previous chapter may appear and bring back all those memories but I hope, I will have a happy ending. Happy ending doesn't meant you want it to be end as how you want it to be, but happy ending will end your story the best way it should be. 

Insya - Allah. 

p/s: I choose to not telling you that I'm waiting for you. It's been a month. Well, I have my answers for why and how come. No worries, I will just walk away. 

Hello from Bintulu

Dear all,

Hellooooo~ from Bintulu. Its been 3 days I'm here and I felt great to be here for the first time. Unfortunately, I didn't take picture since the first day I'm here. Well, I found Bintulu quite a nice place to be away from Semenanjung. I feel calm and happy. Ermm thank you Mr. Prince.

Been away from Semenanjung, I feel like I left everything behind me. My problems, my histories, my sadness, and of course the painful memories I had. I feel like I'm having a new life here. I met new people, leaving in new environment and working in new culture. It is good in some ways. In reality, how long can I run from the truth? It will always keep run after me no matter where I go. So, before I'm going back to Semenanjung, I need to prepare myself to face the truth.

p/s: If you wanna find someone to be your husband, look at how his relationship with his girl-friends boy-friends. If you wanna find someone to be your wife, look at the relationship between her and her mom.

The Meaning of Ramadhan and Syawal

Dear all,

Well it takes quite sometimes for me to update my blog. Its due to my busy life. So let me starts with my life before Ramadhan.

Before Ramadhan, I was busy working on my tender together with other commitments. I didn't realise how fast time flies until we reach Ramadhan. I don't think I wanna share how was my Ramadhan and Syawal but I wanna share what does this year Ramadhan and Syawal meant to me. 

Ramadhan teach me to be stronger and believe that Allah is there whenever, wherever I am in need. Ramadhan this year not only bring sustenance, lucks and bless, but I felt more than that. I've been tested by one after another until I feel like, am I going to die soon as problems are one of the way to clean our sins. First I received news regarding someone who cheating us for another lady. They even met up without letting us know. Then I received news that my relative falls and she's been hospitalised for about a week and she needs to undergo operation due to broken bone. Unfortunately, due to limited time and lots of pending works, I have to postpone my Emergency Leave. Even though we are not that close but she is the one who feed me, wash my shoes, sent me off to gate when Im going to school and accompany me at home since I was kid. Obviously I am worry and I feel like I need to be home to help my mom. On top of that, I've been pushing with tasks which I felt the work process was not efficient at all and due to that circumstances, I have to make myself available all the time. Together with what happened, I've been scolded by my neighbours and they even judge me as an outsider.  Despite what happened, I learnt that, regardless anything, the key to success is patience. When I pray, I felt that Allah is so near and listen to my Doa. I feel safe. I feel strong. Sometimes I felt hopeless. I feel like I need to share with him. Then I back off and said, I shouldn't do that. Most of the night, I will cry and talk to Him. I feel relieve and fall asleep. Ramadhan teach me the meaning of sacrifices. Well, when we sincerely sacrifice for others, we never ask for rewards. When we love someone more than ourself, we are willing to do anything as long as they were happy. However, does it worth it? well, depends =) 

Syawal teach me to be warm and extend our love. I feel warm when surrounded with my family, relatives and friends. We share our joy and having fun together. I did see some group of people who touched my soul and wakes me up. Did I contribute enough? Did I spend my times equally? How am I in next 10 years? Honestly, I start to think on how my Syawal will be when I get married. Naaaaaahh...boring...Syawal teach me to forgive and learnt to forget. Regardless anything people did to me, the most important thing is, I need to forgive myself. I need to have more control on myself. One thing that I realised, I start to have feelings. I can feel others and I truly wish someone can feel me too. 

Now, I'm designing my new life. I set a new target, new aim and of course new dreams. I need to be strong and never give up regardless anything happened. I had gone through this before and I believe I can go through this again. Like people said, time will heals the wound. When I feel like crying, I will just cry, wipe my tears and continue with my life's journey. I don't know how will it ends but I will try my best to have a good ending. 

p/s: End of something might be a good beginning for another thing. Wishing you best of luck. 

Darkness

Dear you,


I wish I may share with you what happened and how stressful I am now. With my dad things, my sister, my works and about us. I choose not to think too much but I end up crying. I barely hold it cause I feel like I might be end up a burden to you. I wish you may hear me crying through phone, as you are far far away from me. I wish we can meet up even though just for a while as it distracts me from thinking about my problems. I'm afraid my call or sms will bring us to worst argument. Hence, I choose to remain silence. Stress does make my chest feel painful. Nonetheless, life must go on. I believe, God will helps me to go through all this obstacles. 

p/s: watched The Vow and The Proposal. The girls are so lucky =D

Inner Strength

Hai people,

Just a quick update, I'll start working next week. sigh I feel more excited than nervous. LoL. For this post I wanna share how do I feel for the past few days. (It will be long post).

I dunno how should I start but for the last few days, I feel sad. From one issue to another issue. It really makes me feel down. However, I do realize one thing. The only man who always with me through thick and thin is my dad. Even though he looks like doesn't really care about me, but when I need him, he always there. Actually, that's how he brought me up. He let me handle my stuff and be independent. However, when I feel in need, I can always ask help from him. He never say that I am annoying but he will be mad if I didn't ask help from him. 

Being bashed with something like my past, really makes me wonder. Do I made a wrong decision before? Do I really move on? bla bla bla...Honestly, I am totally not in a good shape (obviously not round). I know I am not perfect. I do have my own weaknesses. I just hope people can accept me as how I am. I didn't ask to be with him, or him or other guy. It just happen. Of course I have option to reject it but by the time I say yes, I don't know what happen before. It makes me think, do I that bad or stupid to be with him or him or other guy? 

Talking about my dream man, of course I have long list for his characteristics. However does he exist? I don't know. Tell you what, do you know the different between you like and you love someone? When you like someone, you'll try hard to get him/her but once you win, you don't appreciate him / her. You wanna let everyone know that you are together. If you love someone, you'll try your best to make him/her happy even though you are not. Plus, loving someone doesn't mean he/she will be with you. It is more than enough to see him/her happy even though with someone else. 

Insya Allah, I'll keep my inner strength stronger and stronger each day. With support from my parents, sister, friends, insya Allah...what I faced for the past few days will bring fortune to me.

p/s: if you think your neighbour's garden is greener, why don't you take care of your own garden? 

The More The Merrier? Really?

Hai people,

When it comes to celebration, we will invite as many as possible. We will say " the more the merrier". However, is it true? For me, the most important element is the feel of togetherness among the crowd. Like birthday party celebration, do the crowd really want to celebrate or just attending for the sake of be there? In other situation, a family eating together but everyone are busy with their own personal matters. Ermmm I feel weird. As for me, when it comes to celebration like wedding, birthday, hari raya / deepavali / chineese new year / Christmas, farewell or others, I feel like the joy of being together, laughing, chit chatting and harmony are compulsory. 

In our daily life, we may not gather as many people as we want but a simple lunch with your colleague(s) will do. Having a chit chat while eating will help in releasing your stress at work. At least you have a break from your works. In different situation, a family having dinner together and everyone share what happened at school or work place. At least create a moment for you to have a quality time with your family. Besides that, a  couple who are busy with their own personal life, having a pillow talk over the phone. Not to argue but to share and having some time together especially a long distance relationship. 

In my opinion, the more people is not the issue. The most important thing is how you spend your time together. In fact, while you are busy with your works, there will be someone waiting for you, while you are busy telling what happened to you, there will be someone waiting for you to listen, while you are  tired with your routine, there will be someone waiting for you to be with. 

A casual chit chat over the phone and eat together will do for me. At least it does comfort me and make me feel, I am not alone. 

p/s: why we have big brain, two eyes, two ears but only one mouth? 

A story of boiling water with carrot, egg and coffee powder

Hello people,

Wanna share with you about an article which I read 1 hour before my chit chat session with TCM today. Actually, I would prefer a new environment with new people and attitude. So here goes the article ( I try to write as far as I remember it).

There is graduate who complaining about her new lifestyle to her mom. She said she hate the traffic jam, her job scopes, salary is low, and bla bla bla. Her mom just silently listen to her. At the same time, her mom boils water separately by using 3 cooking pots. After she felt tired of complaining then she stop. Her mom told her to take carrot, egg and coffee powder. Without asking much (maybe tired  of talking LoL) she takes all the 3 items as per requested. Then her mom put the carrot in pot A, egg in pot B and coffee powder in pot C. After few minutes then her mom says" Look at the carrot, egg and coffee. Tell me what happened". The daughter says" carrot became soft, egg became harder and coffee powder dissolve plus the water turn into black". Then her mom continue
"Look sweetheart. Carrot which at first is strong and hard finally become soft when we put it inside the boiling water. So do people. Some people are strong and positive but when there are challenges, pressure and obstacles they became soft, weak and demotivated. Next, the egg. At first it is soft and breakable but after few minutes it became hard and firm. So do people. Some people are soft hearted and kind but they changed. They became stubborn and cruel. Lastly the coffee powder. At first it just a powder which can be sweep away by the air. However, it dissolved, changed the water into black water and produce a good  aroma. So do people. They may look weak, no direction in life or maybe look down by others but they can adapt with the environment, do something good when others sabotaj them and persuade or promote others to follow their positive attitude.You choose which one you wanna be in life". -The end-

Almighty Allah says: “…it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing that is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.” (Al-Baqarah 2:216) 

Al-Hasan al-Basri said: “Do not resent the calamities that come and the disasters that occur, for perhaps in something that you dislike will be your salvation, and perhaps in something that you prefer will be your doom.” 

And I found this from http://www.islamicgarden.com/think.html

"If we fall short and only focus on the hardship and fail to pay attention to the lessons, then we may undergo that hardship without really gaining anything from it. No matter how much we might have to go through, there are always countless things to be grateful for. Sometimes the test is to recognize the blessings and be grateful."

p/s: I don't know why carrot, egg and coffee powder. You may change to other items if you want to... =P

Hello 2013!

Hello people,

Happy New Year! I had a feeling this year will be a good and lucky year for me. Why? I have no idea. 2012 left me with lots of funny, sad, and memorable experiences. I feel like it is some sort of yearly journal / diary. So, for the year 2012, I have 365 pages telling what happened to me through out the year.

 Starting from January where I back to UTP as a Final Year student. I continue my life as a student. I feel crazy with my FYP plus other courses. I took more credit hours. Can you imagine. Even bear2 told me that, I be a good girl last year cause I rarely go out late at night. I spent most of my time in my room. I get to know new friends. They are nice. I feel young when I hang out with them. Obviously! Cause they are foundation student. When I think about my life as a student, I feel like laughing out loud. Do you know why? Every semester when I register the courses, I promise myself to study early, no last minute works, study before go to the class, be active in class and on top of the list, wanna score A. However, when I reach mid semester, I always skip class (cause lazy to go), study a night before exam/test, do works earliest 2 - 3 days before submissions and of course, never score A. When I reach end of semester (almost final examination), always tell myself that I'm gonna die that semester, will fail that subject this subject, cannot make it as per dateline, or even sometimes, I feel like don't want to do anything. Praise to the Almighty, I survive till the end of my study. I still remember during my convocation day. I told Sopha "Finally! I made it. Every semester I told you that I'm gonna die but luckily I survive till the end".  hehehe. That's all about my uni life. 

Secondly, I have no idea why I always recall about my past. From how naughty I am during childhood, how I grew up as both my parents are working, my memory with school friends, what happened during my internship, how I start my relationship with him (from the registration day), and lastly about my relationship with Iz. The hardest part of thinking about my relationship with Iz is the feeling of how stupid and childish I am back then. I still remember, there are few days when I think about him, I feel regret with what I did. However, the most painful regret is when I have a thought, why can't I really be friend with Ana? Obviously she is the 3rd party in our relationship but Iz did told me, if he really wanna be with Ana, he choose to be with her since before we are together. Cause they were close since before I'm in a relationship with him. Why do I choose to compete with her? Why don't I choose to be me? If I choose to be friend with her, at least, instead of competing who give the best present to Iz, we can work together to surprise him. sigh! Honestly, if there is time machine where I can go back to those time, I don't wanna go cause I'm glad and happy with what I have now. I have someone to love and to be love. I met awesome people. I feel blessed with those who always there to support me. The most important thing is, I learnt to let mochi2 to have / hang out / help / or anything that can make me feel jealous with his girl friend(s) BUT he must follow the guidelines given to him. LOL.. sounds like QC. 

Wishing you best of luck and have fun! another 365 days coming =) Believe me, anyhing happened for reasons. It just a matter of time for you to know the reasons ^_^

p/s: sorry for make it tooooooo long =P